Living with Loss – Disability Information
“Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.” – Anne Roiphe
Story By Cynthia Lee De Boer
When you lose a body part, you go through immense trauma. A permanent part of you is now missing forever. If you are able to get a prosthesis, then you are fortunate. Prosthetic eyes or limbs make it easier to live without the actual body part, and help you to carry on with daily functions and routines as normally as possible.
Despite this, there are still numerous obstacles that such a loss will require you to overcome, both physically and mentally, such as:
- Improving your self-perception – Losing a body part will, naturally, alter the way you see yourself. You have to adopt a fresh way of viewing yourself and learn to see the unique positives and strengths of this new you.
- Handling another person’s views or questions about your prosthesis – People are going to have questions and opinions about what you have been through. When someone mentions your prosthesis they are not being rude, they are simply curious. When you are living with a prosthesis, you would rather draw as little attention to it as possible, however, you get to experience life in a way that others cannot, and they are fascinated by that. Think of it as a privilege to be able to live life in this very special way, which many others will never experience. You may well find that viewing your infirmities as blessings instead of curses will often turn them into such.
- Camouflage techniques – Often times, disguising a prosthetic part can be extremely difficult. You are constantly trying to keep all eyes away from you and not draw attention to yourself. But why?
Perhaps we were not meant to hide our scars, wounds or imperfections. They are part of our lives and our testimonies; they are part of our stories, whether we like it or not. The question is, do we let them turn our stories into ones of defeat, or ones of victory?