Henderson Writers Group ‘Dime Grinds’ event. December 1, 2019. Featured Author & Speaker. ‘Freedom From Depression, No Matter What Your Disability May Be’ By John Tates III
The last Dime Grinds for this decade (2019), at Grouchy John’s Coffee on Charleston, went out with a beautiful 3 way BANG. Three dynamic, unique, featured authors took the stage… Last but not least the gorgeous, multitalented, Cynthia De Boer, sharing wisdom from experience, reminded the audience, all our days won’t be perfect, and offered advice on how to withstand the rain when it comes down. She left us with a memorable Mark Twain quote, “The two mot important days of your life are, the day you were born and the day you realize why.” — If I may share another quote, “Greatness is when you achieve the reason for which you were created and maximize it’s influence in the lives of others” — Dr. Tony Evans. Let me say that, “Cynthia does not look like what she’s been through,” she’s a bright light giving hope to those in darkness. Thank you Cynthia Lee De Boer.
READERS’ FAVORITE REVIEW #1 – Rating: 5 Stars – ‘Freedom From Depression, No Matter What Your Disability May Be‘ –
Jamie Michele – April 4, 2019
Freedom From Depression: No Matter What Your Disability May Be by Cynthia Lee De Boer is a self-help and inspirational guide, following in the footsteps of its predecessor; De Boer’s Me, Myself and Eye. The book begins on a foundation of understanding; solidified by the author’s own personal trials with unhealthy relationships and a lifetime of health issues and—ultimately—a physical disability, which is told with the compassionate, brave voice of a survivor. Sections two through four move into the importance of switching our perspective on accommodation, our bodies, and what it means to be independent, as well as practical planning out and setting in motion routine changes, environmental comforts, and all the things needed to thrive both emotionally and physically.
I wish I’d had Cynthia Lee De Boer’s book two years ago, but the positive groundwork Freedom From Depression lays is wonderful to have at any stage of healing. To me, the most poignant parts were about the heightened appreciation of senses (I’m looking at you, cozy blanket and scented candle!) and the built-in worksheets that force us to recall things such as blissful thoughts and positive statements. After reading the second section, I felt like I’d already discovered a new way of looking at things. Now with all of the wisdom De Boer has poured into the pages, I feel like I’ve already discovered a new and powerful way to live. I would absolutely recommend this book to those who are facing or have already had their physical forms altered… and to remember the first of many inspirational phrases: Having a disability does not make you less of a person; it makes you more of a human being.~~~~~
READERS’ FAVORITE REVIEW #2 – Rating: 5 Stars – ‘Freedom From Depression, No Matter What Your Disability May Be’ –
Lesley Jones – March 24, 2019
Everyone at some point in their lives will suffer from feelings of grief or depression. As you work through Freedom From Depression, you will gain a greater insight into the workings of the mind, the importance of gratitude and how to find the courage to face problems head-on. Using her own life experiences as examples, in Freedom From Depression Cynthia Lee De Boer tackles issues such as why fear prevents you from tackling your goals and techniques to shift your mindset to start living a more fulfilled life. You will begin to see the same problems and issues with a fresh outlook, an outlook that will transform your life and help those around you to improve theirs. This book is a manual for life, and explains how we can navigate through the obstacles with optimism, and not allow problems and disabilities – whether physical or mental – to define us or hold us back from the life we truly deserve.
The information covered in this manual is vast and truly comprehensive. The author has filled this book with real solutions and techniques that are simple and effective. Cynthia has shared her life experiences to relate how you can implement the techniques. Her account is honest and not at all from a place of victim-hood. You are encouraged to examine the choices you have made and the mindset you have. Using the many techniques, you can automatically become aware of your thoughts and behavior patterns, and then make small changes for huge results. I particularly loved The Stress Cup example, where you can make small changes to minimize stressful events in your life. The STOP acronym was an amazing tool that can be used in your personal and professional life to solve obstacles and problems quickly. I am also pleased there were references to the Law of Attraction and the problems that come with a materialistic mindset.
The icing on the cake came in section four with Groundwork, in which the questions asked of the reader will truly make you stop and think about your achievements, abilities and how you can plan the next chapter of your life with increased respect for yourself. I cannot recommend this book highly enough. Everyone would benefit from reading this book because they would learn not only to respect themselves but those who share the planet with them.~~~~~
READERS’ FAVORITE REVIEW #3 – Rating: 5 Stars – ‘Freedom From Depression, No Matter What Your Disability May Be’ –
K.C. Finn – March 29, 2019
Freedom From Depression: No Matter What Your Disability May Be is a work of self help non-fiction penned by author Cynthia Lee De Boer. Designed as a catchall guidebook, which covers the major areas of depression and depressive behavior, the work is separated into five sections, which include personal stories from the author’s life. Alongside these examples of how and where depression hits, there are tips and tricks which the author employed during her own journey, as well as calls to action where the reader is encouraged to ask important questions about their motivation in life and what they want to get from it.
Author Cynthia Lee De Boer suffers with a difficult physical disability, and her heartfelt work in trying to see the positive in the world is well worth reading, whether you have any similar conditions or not. Her experience with depression, though it will not be the same for everyone, is proof that people can find a mindset, which enables them to fight, even when they feel weak. In itself this is an inspiring and empowering thing to experience. I thought the book was organized well to help readers find particular areas which might be more applicable to them, but the calls to action throughout the volume would be really useful to anyone suffering with mental health issues in general as they seek to make us realize what’s really important to us. Overall, Freedom From Depression: No Matter What Your Disability May Be is a well-written, personal and positive journey that is sure to empower its readers.~~~~~
AMAZON REVIEW – 5 Stars – ‘Freedom From Depression, No Matter What Your Disability May Be’ – December 22, 2018
This talented author has created a simple yet effective book to face anything that threatens your happiness. Whether you have ever been seriously depressed or not, the practical and empathetic suggestions in this book are real life hacks. It is also very useful in addressing the challenges faced by other loved ones in your life. I recommend it for EVERYONE. Kudos on making the world a better place.
REVIEW – ‘Freedom From Depression, No Matter What Your Disability May Be’ – October 2, 2018
I was so excited to dig into your latest book and it did not disappoint!
I was impressed that once again, you stripped yourself naked by sharing all the challenges (physical and emotional) you’ve been through. If that isn’t enough to make people sit up and pay attention, I don’t know what is!
I found your book to be very appropriate to my family’s trials and tribulations, but I also think most anyone can relate to the topics in some way. My husband has used the analogy of the stress cup many times, and I also feel we have a disability. But even though it’s comforting to feel there is someone out there that truly understands all the stress and exhaustion of everyday life – you offered real, constructive, actions to take to help the situation. What I found particularly helpful, was you didn’t say “make a list”, which most people would say “yeah, I should do that sometime…” and never actually do it! You provided no excuses! Here is the space – in your book – immediately available! Smart thinking!
I certainly picked up some new ideas, and ways of looking at things, too, in fact, I plan on reading the book again to make sure I didn’t miss anything!
So thank you for all your hard work and willingness to share your life to help others.
REVIEW – ‘Freedom From Depression, No Matter What Your Disability May Be’ – September 16, 2018
Good day Cynthia, I do want to tell you, my mother had become a big fan of yours and could not stop talking about your newest book. She said the book is very uplifting and could not put it down. I too, felt the same way when I first read it. In fact, my Mom had said it had inspired her to be more positive in life and that you are a very strong person. My Mom has not always been a positive person and I have tried to help her in that aspect with some limited success. your books have helped her get further down the positive road and I want to thank you for that.
Thank you for enriching our lives and I wish you always the best,
REVIEW – ‘Me, Myself & Eye, The Realities of Living With a Prosthetic Eye’ – May 8, 2017
Who knew that losing an eye and getting a prosthesis could be so fascinating? Me, Myself and Eye: The Realities of Living with a Prosthetic Eye, by Cynthia Lee De Boer, tells her story simply and straight-forwardly, including using medical jargon and then explaining what it means. Me, Myself and Eye is meant to be both an autobiographical memoir and a self-help book. Cynthia Lee De Boer achieved both goals. As a child, the author developed Fuchs Dystrophy, an eye disease that develops in children, usually in both eyes. Her sight was greatly affected in her right eye, but it was her left eye that kept manifesting painful symptoms, one after another, causing De Boer to be a withdrawn child in nearly constant pain. At age 16, a corrective contact lens in her right eye gave her the chance to live without coke-bottle glasses slipping down her nose that had given her an awkward self-consciousness. She felt more like a normal teenager. Alas, this feeling of freedom didn’t last. At seventeen, after a number of painful and ineffective eye treatments, she was told that it was time for the removal of her left eye. Teenagers are already body-conscious. This on top of the simple fact of losing an important body part made for a very emotional time. Eventually, De Boer, with the aid of television heroes like Sammy Davis, Jr., Peter Falk, and (mistakenly) Sandy Duncan, was ready to accept the medical necessity for the procedures.
Cynthia Lee De Boer does not leave out a single detail about her emotions, the procedure of eye removal, recovery from surgery, and the things that had to be stuck in her eye before the final insertion of the prosthetic eye, with its hand-painted details. She remembers to express gratitude to the doctors and oculists that took care of her along the way, and reminds people to be proactive patients and make sure the doctors are the right fit. Physically, De Boer discusses making the new eye match the right eye, learning to make both eyes look in the same direction without getting the prosthetic “stuck,” and the cleaning and maintenance of the prosthesis. Me, Myself and Eye: The Realities of Living with a Prosthetic Eye is a very short book, taking me just over an hour to read and digest. Sometimes, the language was awash in hyperbole, but then, teenagers can be very dramatic, even in hindsight from decades later. Overall, Cynthia Lee De Boer has written a Class A memoir and self-help book. –
REVIEW – Rating: 5 out of 5 – ‘Me, Myself & Eye, The Realities of Living With a Prosthetic Eye’ – March 2017
Perhaps you or someone you know suffers from an eye condition and he or she is fearful or uncertain about what to do next or what might happen in the future. I can relate to that because Cynthia De Boer and I have something in common. Shortly after her birth, Cynthia’s parents realized that something was wrong with her vision. As a child I remember visiting Dr. Hewett regularly. I have been wearing very thick glasses, just like Cynthia, since I was three years old. Just like me, one of Cynthia’s eyes has better sight than the other. Cynthia lost her sight in one eye as a teen. I lost the sight in my left eye as an adult. I can relate to Cynthia’s wonderful book, ME MYSELF AND EYE… the realities of living with a prosthetic eye. – DETERMINED-D ~~~~~
REVIEW – ‘Me, Myself & Eye, The Realities of Living WIth a Prosthetic Eye’ – March 23, 2017
Perhaps you or someone you know suffers from an eye condition and he or she is fearful or uncertain about what to do next or what might happen in the future. I can relate to that because Cynthia De Boer and I have something in common. Shortly after her birth, Cynthia’s parents realized that something was wrong with her vision. As a child, I remember visiting Dr. Hewett regularly. I have been wearing very thick glasses, just like Cynthia, since I was three years old. Just like me, one of Cynthia’s eyes has better sight than the other. Cynthia lost her sight in one eye as a teen. I lost the sight in my left eye as an adult. I can relate to Cynthia’s wonderful book, ME MYSELF AND EYE… the realities of living with a prosthetic eye.
Can you imagine what Cynthia went through as a child with serious eye issues, wondering what each new day would bring, having to suffer through pain one day and perhaps some relief the next day? Someone said that pain and suffering make you stronger. Cynthia has had a prosthetic eye since the age of seventeen. She has learned to deal with her eye issues so well that she has decided to share her journey with you by writing about it with ME MYSELF AND EYE.
It takes a very strong personality to be able to deal with serious issues and still be willing to share them with the world. Cynthia has surrounded herself with positive people along with experts in the field of eye care. Her belief system is strong and solid. MY MYSELF AND EYE is packed with solid eye-related information. I never knew a prosthetic (glass) eye was acrylic. Cynthia’s book is insightful and empathetic. She is thorough, even including stories about others facing the same issue. She has also included a chapter on eye diseases and web sites containing more useful information. Feel free to check out Cynthia’s blog. Lastly, she has included her email should you have any comments or questions. ME MYSELF AND EYE is a must-read for anyone dealing with eye issues. – Dennis De Rose ~~~~~
“A short read worth every minute!”
REVIEW – 5 out of 5 Stars – ‘Me, Myself & Eye, The Realities of Living With a Prosthetic Eye’ – March 13, 2017
With 50,000 Americans being declared legally blind every year, this little book is a must read. Cynthia gives an informative, insightful glimpse into the tragedy of losing an eye as a teenager, and finding “wholeness” with a prosthesis. This is a universal story any reader can identify with, regardless of the type of infirmity the reader might face. – Diana McKay ~~~~~
“A difficult journey but a hopeful message … well worth the read.”
REVIEW – 4 out of 5 Stars – ‘Me, Myself & Eye, The Realities of Living With a Prosthetic Eye’ – January 16, 2017
Me, Myself and Eye, by Cynthia L. De Boer is a biographical and factual account of the author’s journey from a young age, through a difficult and challenging medical condition with one eye – where ultimately she had to have the eye removed and replaced with a prosthesis. One would think that the read would be uncomfortable and difficult, and of course, in some parts it is not palatable to the mind, but overall, it is not. What makes this book particularly special and important is that it takes a subject, sight, and puts it into the spotlight and makes it very real to the reader just how important our eyes are to everything in our life. De Boer does a good job of presenting a very difficult and somewhat traumatizing subject matter, and while the narrative walks us through her own journey, the real focus and value of this book is the tremendous amount of facts and information which the author provides about eyesight, ocular diseases, issues and of course prostheses. One cannot help but achieve a higher awareness, understanding, and indeed, appreciation of these two parts of us which bring the whole world to life. And of course, as the reader, if one has any eyesight issues, then this book is an excellent and easy manual, written in layman’s terms, with references and advice which anyone can use. It is not a medical text, but it is certainly a valuable ally to have in one’s library, because with age comes eyesight issues and it is good to understand and to know what one is dealing with. The book also shows us that in the past five decades or so, medical science has learned a lot and refined this field considerably, so it is a hopeful sign for anyone who might have to walk this road, and one can find some solace in her book that one is not alone in this journey.
Book review also available at International Writers Inspiring Change – Real Laplaine ~~~~~
“Her path was painful but she has an incredible attitude.”
REVIEW – 5 out of 5 Stars – ‘Me, Myself & Eye, The Realities of Living With a Prosthetic Eye’ – January 13, 2017
This book was a very intense walk with a young woman that started with medical problems from birth. Her path was painful but she has an incredible attitude. Her journey was full of unselfish love and gratitude for those who helped her. She is a wonderful person and the book is a worth reading and giving to anyone who has physical problems because it is inspiring and encourages gratitude to those who help us along life’s journey no matter what your challenges are. – Elaine ~~~~~
REVIEW – ‘Me, Myself & Eye, The Realities of Living With a Prosthetic Eye’ – November 30, 2016
Anne Karr – Boulder City Library Head of Cataloging and Processing
Cynthia Lee De Boer’s Me, Myself and Eye: The Realities of Living With a Prosthetic Eye provides a heart to heart talk with a trusted friend for any individual facing the uncertainties of what to expect when a prosthetic eye is to a part of a foreseen future. This frightening prospect for patients nationwide can be faced with hope and reassurance because of the honesty with which Be Boer shares her story.
This insightful book is referred to by some as a mini-memoir, but De Boer’s intent for sharing her experiences is to fill a void in material available to any person facing surgery or fearful of the practical realities which follow. Her friendly, inspiring writing style can reassure the anxious person with a prosthetic of any kind, however, the author’s infectious, positive, encouraging tone will resonate with any audience in search of an inspirational story written by a vivacious, victorious person. – Anne Karr ~~~~~
REVIEW – 5 out of 5 Stars – ‘Me, Myself & Eye, The Realities of Living With a Prosthetic Eye’ – August 20, 2016
Ms. De Boers’ saga begins shortly after birth, continues throughout her vulnerable teenage years, and is ongoing even today. She shares her story, bouncing between horror and humor. The courage it took to live this journey, much less chronicle it, is truly an inspiration. – Jackie Faoroon ~~~~~
REVIEW – 5 out of 5 Stars – ‘Me, Myself & Eye, The Realities of Living With a Prosthetic Eye’ – June 14, 2016
A very open look into the life of someone going through a life changing experience at a young age and the positive outlook to have after. A great read and it will make you feel good about life and the people in it. – Rickey Stewart ~~~~~